This past Saturday I was at a Christmas party that my parents, as well as some of my other family members, attended. It was over a glass of wine that I heard my mother's cousin ask, "So is Melissa seeing anyone?" Without missing a beat my mom answers "No she is too high maintenance and picky." I quickly replied "I heard that!"
Later that night I was laying in bed thinking am I high maintenance ? Then I began thinking exactly what does that term mean? Yes I like to dress up and do my hair and look pretty. Sometimes I can spend a lot of time doing those things and that is my right as a girl. On the other hand sometimes I throw my hair in a ponytail and head out the door. Yes, even without makeup... okay maybe some lip gloss. When I hear the term high maintenance I think of a girl who spends hours getting ready every day, and needs designer EVERYTHING. Heck if I find something cute at Target I will wear it, and that's not to say that I don't appreciate quality craftsmanship, but again I shop at target. I also think of a girl who needs a big rock on her finger and needs to live a lavish lifestyle. Do I need to live in a mansion? No, not by any means, but nor do I want to live off of food stamps either.
I love to go camping and when I say love I mean LOVE! I like sleeping on the ground or under the stars sometimes when I go camping I don't even shower for days. Gross I know but part of the experience nonetheless. When I tell people I am going camping I always get the same reaction. YOU! NO WAY! This infuriates me to no end. Can there not be a healthy balance between liking to wear dresses and cute shoes on the weekdays and wanting to go hiking on a Saturday afternoon? I think a real girl who is high maintenance wouldn't be caught dead in nature.
I will admit that my mother was right in one area and that is I am picky. I don't have a list that I have to check mark each thing in order for me to like someone because I don't think it works that way. I do have several things that I am looking for in a man. My faith is very important to me, and while some people don't understand it, I want him to be a spiritual leader. I'm not talking he needs to be a pastor or anything but I do want Christianity to be important to him too. I want someone to travel with, to go on adventures with because that is what life is an adventure. (Just talk to anyone who has kids and they will tell you that.) I want someone to laugh at life with and someone who I can cry on his shoulder when things get hard. I want to be happy and if that makes me high maintenance and picky in some peoples eyes well then I will gladly wear that title.